The First Four Weeks
Being a dad is the greatest thing in the world. Every day is more humbling than the last. This is our second son and the love just grows. I didn’t know a love like this was possible. Before they can even talk, they are communicating with you and teaching you everyday. Patience, gratitude, love, the rawness and preciousness of life.
Here are some of the things I've learned about the first four weeks.
- The pure emotion. My wife just went through the most amazing most difficult thing she’s ever done. It was an incredible all natural water birth at the Boulder Birth Center. I can’t even describe the feeling when I first saw him. The emotions don’t stop then. There are ALOT of emotions and hormones flowing long after.
- Sleep. Take the z’s when you can get ‘em.
- Bonding. Soak every moment up. Kick back and just hold him.
- Chill time. There is none.
- It’s all a blur. I feel like I’m in the twilight zone. I can’t hold a conversation with an adult, it doesn’t feel like real life. It’s hard to focus on anything.
- Nothing goes as planned. Don’t get let down when things don’t happen. And don’t set expectations for your other kiddos.
- Take time for yourself. Hit the gym, read, listen to music, go for a drive. Try and take at least three full weeks off from work (and everything else). Three months would be ideal.
- Love your wife / partner. Probably the most important thing.
- Don’t forget about your other kids. They need more love and affection than ever.
If there’s one takeaway from this - I would say just live in the moment and soak up all the memories. You learn every day and every day is new. Tons of ups and downs, love and laughter.
You hear all the cliches, but they really do grow so damn fast and there’s no other love like it.